Calibration is Essential
Have you ever heard the term "calibration"? If you've taken an NLP course or if you're a student of ours at the Mike Mandel Hypnosis Academy, you are probably already familiar with this term.
The ability to calibrate is one of the most important skills you must have as a hypnotist. To calibrate means to observe a person’s external behavior and their physiology, and watch for changes.
When you're a hypnotist or a coach, you want to be aware of what is going on with the person you're working with.
Remember: hypnosis isn't just a one way street. It is a psychodynamic loop of communication where you and your client work together to acheive a certain result. So you need to look at them and watch their feedback so you can adjust your behavior based on what feedback you’re getting.
But be careful. Some things are not always what they seem to be.
Calibration is NOT Mind Reading
A mistake that many beginner hypnotists and NLP practitioners make is to confuse calibration for what we call mind reading.
Just because you learned how to calibrate, it doesn't mean you're now a psychic.
To calibrate, you need to get a baseline first. That means when a client comes into your office, you must observe how they usually behave ... how they move, how they breathe ... so when they deviate from it, you know something has changed.
For example, when you first see someone, you can't determine how stressed they are based purely on their blinking frequency.
It is true that when a person is anxious, they tend to blink more often. However, some people just normally blink a lot. There are people who blink only 9 times per minute, while others do it as many as 30 times a minute. If you don't get a baseline first, how can you tell if a person is blinking any more or less than they usually do?
But that's not the only problem.
Even when a person has calibrated correctly - by getting a baseline first and observing changes - sometimes, they make the mistake of assuming what that change means.
Similar to most things in hypnosis, context is everything when it comes to calibration. Every person is different, and when you observe a change happening on someone, the only thing that tells you is that something has changed. If you start assuming what a person is thinking and feeling based on what you're calibrating, you're now mind reading.
Slap yourself on the wrist. Stop that.
The ability to read minds would certainly be very useful for coaches and therapists; the only problem, however, is it simply doesn't exist. There's no way to tell what's going on in a person's mind unless you ASK them. So instead of making assumptions (which will most likely be wrong) about a what the client is thinking, get in the habit of ASKING them.
In this video on our Youtube channel, Mike and Chris explain in greater depth the difference between calibration and mind reading, and how to calibrate your clients properly without attempting to read their minds. Remember to leave a like, comment and subscribe to our channel!