Changing a behavior that’s been on autopilot for years might seem impossible, but what if it didn’t have to be? Whether you’re stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, hesitation, or frustration with an old habit, there’s a quick and effective way to shift gears and start doing things differently.
Enter the New Behavior Generator, a powerful tool from neurolinguistic programming (NLP) that helps you easily rewire your habits and adopt new, more empowering behaviors—no years of therapy or self-help books required. In this post, you’ll learn how to apply this simple technique and start transforming your behaviors almost instantly.
Ready to make a change? Let’s dive in.
What is the New Behavior Generator?
The New Behavior Generator is an NLP technique designed to help you adopt new behaviors by first modeling someone who already does it well. Sounds simple, right? That's because it is. One of the most compelling things about this method is how fast and easy it works. You don’t need to spend months in therapy or go through long-winded self-help programs. All you have to do is follow a few easy steps, and you’ll start seeing results almost immediately.
What's even better is that you don’t have to believe in the process for it to work. You just have to walk through the steps.
Pick Your Behavior and Context
Before you start, it’s important to get clear on what exactly you want to change. It could be a behavior you want to improve or an old habit that’s no longer serving you. The key here is to be specific.
For instance, if you want to become a better public speaker, you could focus on improving your confidence when presenting at work. Perhaps you’ve got a big presentation coming up, or maybe it’s just something you want to do better in your everyday work life. The context matters because the more specific you are about the situation, the easier it will be to visualize and practice the new behavior.
Find Your Role Model
Now that you know what you want to change, the next step is to find a role model. This is someone who already embodies the behavior you want to adopt. The great thing about this method is that the role model doesn’t have to be a real person. It can be a character from a movie, TV show, or even someone from your imagination.
For example, if you want to become a more confident public speaker, you might choose someone like Harvey Specter from Suits or Raymond Reddington from The Blacklist. These characters exude confidence, poise, and control, which are qualities you want to mirror when you’re presenting. The idea here is to pick someone who displays the behavior you aspire to, someone whose presence you admire.
Visualize Your Role Model in Action
Once you’ve picked your role model, it’s time to create a mental movie of them in action. Imagine your role model performing the behavior flawlessly in the exact context you want to adopt. For instance, visualize your role model standing confidently at a podium, speaking with ease, engaging the audience, and delivering their message with total control.
This visualization exercise isn’t just about watching them from a distance—it’s about immersing yourself in the experience of watching them excel. Picture their body language, the tone of their voice, and how they make the audience feel. The more vivid and detailed your mental picture, the more powerful this step becomes.
Step Into the Role Model’s Shoes
Now comes the fun part: stepping into your role model’s shoes. This is where the magic happens. You’re not just observing anymore—you’re becoming them.
Mentally, put yourself in their place. See yourself moving, speaking, and acting just like them. As you do this, do your best to feel what it's like be like to be that confident, powerful version of yourself. Imagine the emotions that would run through you if you were speaking to an audience with absolute confidence and clarity.
This step is critical because it helps your brain connect with the behavior on an emotional level. By associating with your role model, you begin to "download" their skills and emotional states, which makes it easier to replicate the behavior in real life.
Dissociate and Watch Yourself Perform the Behavior
Once you’ve fully stepped into the role model’s experience, it’s time to take a step back and observe yourself. This may sound a little strange, but it’s incredibly effective. This step is based on the concept of NLP perceptual positions. If you're not familiar with this concept, click here.
Mentally dissociate from that place and watch yourself perform the behavior flawlessly, just like your role model would. This creates a bit of distance between you and the new behavior, which allows you to see yourself in action as if you’ve already mastered it.
Picture yourself standing in front of an audience, delivering your presentation with confidence and ease. Watch yourself speak without hesitation, engaging the crowd and feeling totally in control. The more you can see yourself performing the behavior in this way, the more real it becomes.
Step Back Into Your Own Experience
Finally, it’s time to fully integrate the new behavior. Step back into your own body and fully experience yourself performing the behavior as though you are the role model. Feel the confidence, the energy, and the clarity that comes with being that person. This process helps you make the new behavior feel natural and easy.
As you step back into your own experience, you’re programming your mind and body to perform this behavior as if you’ve already mastered it. It’s not just a mental exercise, but a physical one too.
Strengthening the Process with Physical Engagement
For even greater effectiveness, stand up and physically acting out the behavior. This could be as simple as practicing your presentation in front of a mirror, or even going through the motions of your new behavior in a quiet room. By adding physical movement to the process, you reinforce the mental rehearsal and make the new behavior feel more embodied.
Putting It All Together with Future Pacing
Once you've practiced the steps, it's time to look ahead. Imagine the future scenario where you’ll need to perform this new behavior. Picture yourself in that situation, feeling completely confident and capable, and performing the behavior flawlessly.
This future pacing helps lock in the new behavior by mentally rehearsing the context in which you’ll need it. It primes you for success when the real moment arrives.
Start Transforming Your Habits Today
The New Behavior Generator is a simple yet powerful tool that can help you break free from old, unhelpful habits and replace them with new, empowering behaviors. So, what behavior are you ready to change? What old habit are you going to improve or completely replace with something new? Use the New Behavior Generator today, and let us know how it works for you!
With a little practice and the right mindset, you can transform any behavior, one step at a time.
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